Today, February 11th, is a holiday based on our English language idiom crying over spilled milk, which means to be upset over something that cannot be undone.
I don’t know about you, but I think I need this.
We all need a little reminder sometimes-to take a deep breath, clean up our mess and move on. It will be okay.
We have all made regrettable decisions in our lives. And while it is important to
- apologize to people whom our bad decisions may have affected,
- set things right for them, and
- learn from our mistakes,
we should also ensure that we don’t spend more time than necessary on regret.
Studies show that long-term regret (including disappointment, remorse, shame, anger, and embarrassment over our actions) can have a negative effect on our mental and physical well-being. By focusing energy and thoughts on a past event, it can stop us from re-engaging with life and can often cripple our decision-making process.
Holding on to regret can also be stressful to our body by its impact on our immune system. Studies also show that regretful people are
- more prone to being sick,
- have more mental health issues, and
- tend to attract fewer people socially.
Yes, “Don’t Cry Over Spilled Milk Day” is real! We can all use a day to remind us to take a moment and just breathe. Breathe deeply and let all the outside influences fall away for a few seconds.
This is a great day to remind ourselves not to sweat the small stuff! And when we find ourselves sweating the small stuff anyway, we know that we need this holiday!
I hope this “holiday” finds you calm, centered, and happy!