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Let Go?!
Posted by Pat on January 29, 2023 in Uncategorized | ∞
There’s many a lesson I’m still learning, and this is one of them!
LETTING GO(D) doesn’t mean not caring, it means not taking responsibility for someone else.
LETTING GO(D) doesn’t mean cutting myself off from others, it means realizing that I can’t control others.
LETTING GO(D) doesn’t mean caring for, it means caring about.
LETTING GO(D) does mean:
- to stop assisting others in avoiding the consequences of their choices;
- to stop being protective, and to permit others to face reality;
- to stop being in the middle, arranging, and instead to be on the sidelines, cheering;
- to stop criticizing, changing and regulating others, and to be what I can become;
- to stop fixing, and to be supportive;
- to stop resisting, and to accept;
- to fear less and to love more.
(from What’s Growing On, a newsletter from the National Science of Mind Center, from a couple of decades ago!)
Have you experienced
- the pain of NOT letting go?
- the frustration of being unhappy with someone’s choices?
- the difficulty of letting a loved one make a “mistake?”
I think being a parent, being a partner, being a human – all make this “letting go” idea difficult!
Do you have any tips you can share?
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A friend taught me how to be an observer. I can imagine I came from another neighborhood (world?) Just to observe how they do things here. You can’t judge. That’s not your job.