So should we ask why? Part 2

Last week I wrote about weakening questions like “Why does this always happen to me?”

On the other end of the spectrum, there are the what and how questions that are strengthening questions. These are the questions that bring forth a perspective that will help us overcome any obstacle or challenge.

Some examples of what questions are:

• What can I do to turn this around?
• What is the hidden opportunity that I’m not seeing?
• What is it about this that can make me stronger?

Some examples of how questions are:

• How can I do this smarter?
• How can I make this better?
• How can I think outside the box here?

And, there are some great reasons to use why questions, if you use them correctly. There’s a great book out by Simon Sinek called “Start with Why” that reminds us that our answers can cause our successes.

Some examples of good why questions are:

• Why do I want to learn this knowledge?
• Why do people like to spend time with me?
• Why do I want to leave a legacy?

These strengthening questions naturally focus our minds on problem-solving strategies that help to expand our possibilities. And they help us find solutions to the challenges that are currently confronting our lives.

Many of us have an unconscious habit of asking questions about things we don’t want in our lives. (lack of money, poor health, loneliness?)

When we persistently ask these types of questions, we are focusing our mind on unwanted objects, people, circumstances and events.

Guess what! We get what we focus on!

We seem to forget that the persistent questions we ask, focus on, and direct our minds to are what we get answers for.

In the end, the choice of questions we  ask completely rests within our hands. And it is this choice that determines the level of happiness, success, and fulfillment we experience within our lives.

So…let’s be sure to choose wisely!

P.S. I hope you read “Don’t ask why Part 1” from last week. It is thought-provoking too!